How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

A little over a year and a half ago, I wrote an article on here called “The Ultimate Guide on How to Get a Girl Back.” It fairly quickly became one of the more popular articles on the site, as getting girls back whose interest you’ve lost tends to be a common thing a great many men are all trying to figure out.

That piece also led to me getting a relatively constant stream of emails and comments and requests to write the post I’d promised, provided there was enough interest, at the end of it – a post on how to get your girlfriend back.

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Here’s the latest request, from longerjt on the article about using scarcity:

“Chase -

So yesterday I layed it out and challenged a girlfriend to get in or out and she slammed me. I said I needed to know where she stood and that I was ready to move on and bam! She said take a hike. Guess I misplayed it.

Hence, can you do the post you promised some time ago, “how to get your girlfriend back” in “how to get a girl back”? I could use it now.

Thanks for the great stuff!

JT”

If you’ve been reading this site a while, you may have thought I was asleep at the wheel, or that I didn’t care to address this question. A lot of people have asked about it.

But in fact, over the past 19 months or so, I’ve probably written a half dozen versions of this article. It’s not that it’s technically difficult to write… it’s that there are certain moral implications in taking a girlfriend back, under certain conditions, that I feel it’s important for men to understand, and it’s also that I find most men trying to get their ex-girlfriends back are more concerned with what they want than with what their former girlfriends want (and need).

I think I’m in a place now where I can communicate this right.

So today, let’s discuss how to get a girlfriend back – and who you need to be and what you need to be willing to do if you’re going to pull this off.

It isn’t always hard. Plenty of people get back together every day. But I’ll be writing this for the hard cases – the ones where she isn’t already knocking down your door for another try. So I’ll be giving you some stuff that’s tried and tested, that I’ve used myself multiple times, and that I’ve watched friends and students and mentees use effectively again and again.

But believe you me, if I find out you’ve used this irresponsibly and hurt some girl by being selfish, I will come to where you live and demolish you.

That out of the way, let’s get on with it.

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First things first: why aren’t you and her together anymore?

If you’re the one who did the breaking up, you already know the answer:

You became bored dating her
You wanted to see what else was out there
You were moving somewhere else or she was

If you broke up with her because she cheated on you or just stopped coming to see you, this doesn’t count; she’s still the one who left… you merely made it official.

So if you broke up for any other reason than you simply couldn’t be together location-wise, or you just didn’t have the same emotions for her anymore, you must read this section.

Because you won’t have a flying chance in heck of getting a girlfriend back without it (unless she’s REALLY desperate).

Why Your Girlfriend Left You

how to get your girlfriend backThere are three (3) core reasons women leave:

Their current man is not sexy, dominant, and attractive enough

Their current man makes them feel too unstable and insecure

Progress in the relationship has stalled out

All other reasons are secondary to these. For instance:

She met some really sexy guy and ran off with him? You weren’t attractive enough, or progress in your relationship had stalled out

She told you she needed someone more serious, more willing to commit? You made her feel too unstable/insecure, or progress in your relationship had stalled out

She faded you out and disappeared, or grew cold and stopped talking to you? You made her feel too unstable/insecure, or progress in your relationship had stalled out

She told you it just wasn’t working out and she wanted to take a break? You weren’t attractive enough, or progress in the relationship had stalled out

There’s a common belief among the (inexperienced and unempathetic) men and women of the world that people of the opposite sex “don’t make sense” or “are irrational.”

But all these behaviors we exhibit in our relationships are the product of eons natural selection. Everything we do makes perfect sense, and is perfectly rational. It only seems irrational if you don’t understand the ultimate aim of it… that is to say, if your mental model of the thing is flawed.

Men and women do the things they do because the things they do move them closer to their romantic and sexual objectives. And understanding where the differences lie in those objectives can allow you to see why the behavior differs between the sexes.

Differences in Objectives Between the Sexes

You’re familiar of course with the usual clichés, like that men want sex and women want relationships, and men want freedom and woman want closeness and intimacy. As you doubtless realize, it’s not as simple as this; men want relationships and women want sex too, and women want freedom and men want closeness and intimacy as well.

However, there are some very distinct differences in the mating goals of the sexes that lead to conflict, disharmony, and discord, and when you have trouble in your relationships it almost boils down to one of these mismatches between the relationship objective desired and the reality of the relationship situation:

Women lack time for ongoing non-commitment. This is more a subconscious program running in girls’ heads than it is a conscious awareness. It doesn’t start becoming conscious until somewhere around age 30 in the modern West; the more conservative she is the earlier it does, and the more liberal she is, the later it does. Regardless of her degree of consciousness of it or not, all women – even teenage girls – are operating on a relationship deadline. A relationship that doesn’t produce children and/or commitment within just a couple of years almost invariably falls prey to the 2 year drop, and things change and women make increasingly more demands and, if these aren’t met, leave.

Women need commitment for social acceptance. Even in the West, where women have made so many gains in removing old social norms, women still feel social pressure to get commitment out of long-term partners. The longer a relationship progresses without commitment, the more jittery a woman tends to become, as she starts to feel more and more like she “hasn’t got it” or that her man “isn’t committed to her enough,” and as family, peers, and the media begin to pressure her to get her man to commit – or find one who will.

Women need commitment for support. One of the things that happens with long-term relationships is that, much of the time, eventually, children happen. Aside from the biological urges pushing her down that path, a woman also asks herself logical questions, like, “If we have an accident and I get pregnant, is he going to support me or not?” If she starts feeling like the answer is or might be “no,” that’s a major problem for a relationship.

What it really comes down to is women need men to take care of them and deliver them the kind of relationship progress they require.

This is not the issue for some categories of breakups, which we’ll discuss more in detail in just a moment. However, these are the differences contributing to the type of breakup where women leave in frustration at not being able to achieve relationship goals – and you need to understand them.

Forget “female empowerment” or “women’s liberation” or any of that other talk. That’s 20-something girl talk and spinster talk. Most women outside the blogosphere aren’t talking that way. Most women today ultimately still want the same thing their mothers and grandmothers and great-grandmothers wanted: a happy, stable, committed relationship, with a strong, attractive man to call their own.

And if a girl starts feeling like she can’t get that with you, she leaves.

Of course, there are a few other reasons she may leave, as well.

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A girl’s going to have one of three (3) very distinct emotion classes post-breakup with you:

Screw you, jerk!
I’m free! or
It’s too soon!

For our purposes here (getting her back), #1 and #3 are vastly, vastly, overwhelmingly more desirable.

In the case of #1, the emotion she’s experiencing is large scale auto-rejection, and she wanted what she couldn’t have (you). That means the breakup happened not because she wanted it to, but because she simply reached the limit of her abilities to tolerate not being able to get what she needed from you, and left in anger, frustration, defeat, and disgust.

In the case of #2 – the most difficult of the emotion classes for you to come back from – her emotion is relief, because she was bored / unchallenged / uninterested, and now at last she’s free to go do what she wants without a boring / clingy / needy ball-and-chain around her ankle to hold her back and drag her down.

In #3 – significantly rarer than #s 1 or 2 – some life circumstance intervened to interrupt your relationship before it had run its course yet, and she looks back on it fondly wondering, “What if?” She wonders what might have been – had circumstances outside of either of your control not stepped in to nip your romance in the bud.

Here’s all that in image form:

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In #s 1 and 3, she WANTS to be with you… but feels like she CAN’T be. In #1, she sees this as being your fault. In #3, she sees this as being outside either of your control.

Meanwhile in #2, she DOESN’T want to be with you… and is thrilled to at last be free.

You can get girlfriends back in any case… but you’re going to have far more of an uphill battle to fight if it’s #2. It’s going to take longer, you’re going to break your back to do it, and you may even find that by the time she wants you back, you no longer want her back.

But before we start talking about what precisely you’ll be doing, let’s talk first about what she’s feeling a little more in-depth in each of these scenarios.

#1: Screw You, Jerk!

This is the classic case of auto-rejection… and it is, to-date, the one that all of my own personal experience getting girlfriends back stems from. You get this one when she wanted to be with you, but felt that she could not be because you would not give her what she wanted from you.

Usually, this means you become “the one that got away”… once her emotions cool off and she no longer views you angrily and resentfully, you become the one she ends up looking back on the most often with rose-colored glasses.

You were the man who stole a little piece of her heart, and never really gave it back.

The emotional phase following these relationships follow this arc:

The Rebound Phase: this is the phase in which your ex-girlfriend’s damaged psyche and sense of self-esteem needs to heal itself by seeing her immersed in male attention and new lovers. Party girls party harder, girls who aren’t usually party girls find themselves in party mode, and women go to bed with new men who can make them feel good about themselves more quickly here than at any other phase of any of their relationship cycles.

This phase generally lasts anywhere from one quarter to one half of the length of time of your relationship, though can be longer in particularly short-but-impassioned relationships, or shorter in the case of relationships where she really does feel like she was “better” than you.

The Cool Off Phase: this is when she starts to mellow out and become a bit more reflective on you and your past relationship. She becomes able to see your advantages again, and isn’t completely othering you as inhuman and unrelatable. Black and white thinking subsides, and she begins to remember what she liked about you. This is, actually, the worst phase of a category #1 girl to try and get her back during, because her emotions for you here are not very “hot” in any direction.

The Longing Phase: once she’s fully cooled off from hating your guts and partly forgotten you for a while, she often starts to think of you wistfully again and long for you – especially if she hasn’t met anyone in the meantime who has a more powerful emotional impact on her than you did, and sometimes even if she moves on and starts dating someone else, only to find that what she has with him doesn’t measure up to what she had with you (or what she remembers having with you… the mind is a tricky thing). This is when she’s most ripe for getting back together with you – it’s when she’s wishing the two of you had never parted ways, and realizing that, compared to all these other men, you’re actually a hell of a catch.

You can get a former girlfriend back in any of these phases. I’ve historically taken girls back (when I used to do such things… I don’t get back together with exes any longer) in the rebound phase.

But it’s often not pretty before stage #3.

Much better to wait for the longing phase to kick in, if you want best results here… and provided you’re okay with waiting, and are comfortable taking your chances that she won’t find someone else and end up paired off more or less for good before then.

But then again, few men wanting their girlfriends back are prepared to wait and want to leave as little to chance as possible, even if on average it produces the best results… so this point might be a moot one.

#2: I’m Free!

Your dimmest prospects for getting a girlfriend back are here – when she’s happy, relieved, and feeling free to be rid of you, and off in search of some new and exciting men elsewhere.

Your ex-girlfriend in this case is unlikely to spend much time reflecting on you or her relationship where boredom reigned supreme and she felt smothered and like the more dominant party – she’s just glad she’s free to seek a more appealing man now.

The range of emotions she’ll go through following the breakup are:

The Relief Phase: ahh, it’s good to be free! She’s finally unattached from that boring old ball-and-chain of a partner – the guy who really didn’t do it for her anymore. Now she can do whatever she want! Girls will have a minor rebound phase here, but it’s nothing like what the girl in the #1 case goes through. In the relief phase, she may hook up with a new guy or two (usually more exciting, manly men, whereas girls on the rebound often end up with nicer, sweeter guys who can tend to their emotional wounds), but she may just as well have girls’ nights out with her friends and drink, relax, and let her hair down instead.

The Move On Phase: her thoughts about you don’t linger long, and she’s back in the dating pool, looking for Mr. Exciting. She soon finds herself in a relationship – casual or otherwise – with a guy who gets her blood pumping a lot more than you used to. Now we’re having fun!, she thinks.

The Reflection Phase: if the series of partners and relationships she has following you fails to present any long-term candidates (or, the long-term candidates she wants fail to stick around and put her through the experiences of a #1 category girl), she may begin to reflect on you, and how nice, stable, safe, and reliable things were with you. Sure, you didn’t exactly get her juices flowing… but doesn’t every gal need a companion? Wounded by her lack of ability to rope the really exciting guys into committed relationships, she begins to realize that maybe, just maybe, you just might’ve been the guy for her.

Women won’t always make it to stage 3 here – they may well meet the man of their dreams along the way during or after stage 2. But if they do make it to stage 3, this is when you usually have your best shot at winning them back.

Can you get an ex-girlfriend back in stage 1 if she’s relieved to be rid of you? Possibly… but you’re going to need to pull one hell of a reversal (and it’s unlikely you will, in all fairness). We’ll discuss your options a little later on down in this article, in case despite the odds you’re ready to take on this rather daunting task.

#3: It’s Too Soon!

Girls in this case are the easiest of all to get back – assuming you have a good reason for not being parted with them any longer (and it doesn’t look like you’re chasing them down or flip-flopping upon a decision you made earlier).

That’s because girls in scenario #3 never really go through “stages” – instead, they simply lose a man they wanted to be with, wonder how things would’ve gone, and remain open to picking up things where they left off – if, that is, the stars align to bring the two of you back together again, of course.

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I’d imagine you know which of the three categories of emotion your relationship with your ex-girlfriend falls into above.

If not, here’s the guide:

If she was very emotional with you and pushed for commitment and you said, “No,” she’s #1

If she was not very emotional with you and broke up in a largely calm (though sometimes annoyed) manner by telling you things weren’t working out or she needed to think things over or needed some space or wanted to take a break or she just wasn’t feeling “chemistry” or “a spark,” she’s #2

If the only reason the two of you broke up was because you were going to be apart for an extended period of time and you both agreed it wouldn’t work that way, she’s #3

#3 must be mutual.

#2 is almost always her call, while you say, “Wait, we can work it out!”

#1 can be either person’s call, but it’s chock full of angsty, negative emotions and cold, disgusted death stares / storming out / displays of feeling.

I assume if you weren’t sure before, you know pretty well now which of the categories you fall into.

And now that you know that, let’s talk about how to get your girlfriend back.

As we will see, each of the three categories has a corresponding solution, in terms of one specific thing you must give your ex that she was lacking from you before:

Commitment,

Excitement, or

The answer to an unanswered question.

How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

When She Hates Your Guts

how to get your girlfriend backWhen a girl hates your guts and thinks you’re a jerk, it’s because she wanted to be with you, but eventually figured she could not be.

That’s not to say you wouldn’t have “stuck around”… it is to say you wouldn’t have stuck around in the capacity she needed you to stick around in.

You may well have been perfectly happy having things stay the way they were.

But she wasn’t.

She needed more. More from you.

And eventually she decided you couldn’t or wouldn’t deliver, and left.

The keys to getting her back are thus:

You must engage with her in the rebound or longing phases. Her emotions for you are still running high in the rebound phase, and you can swing them back in your direction if you hit the right note. And in the longing phase, she already wants to be back together with you again anyway. Steer clear of the cool off phase though – she thinks well of you, but almost in a matronly, maternal way… not the same as sexual or romantic desire. That will return when she moves into longing, though, if she’s already in cool off.

You must stress your desire to commit. And you need to stress that this was your intention all along, and you just hadn’t told her yet. Important: DO NOT DO THIS IF YOU DO NOT MEAN IT. It will be bad for you, and worse for her. If you don’t want to offer her commitment, don’t try to get back a girl who wants commitment with you. Instead, let her go – and find a girl more in line with your own goals. I’m warning you (from unfortunate experience) – this is ugly for both of you if you do it from the wrong place in your heart (fear of loss rather than desire to give her the progress or commitment she wants). Be honest with yourself and her about what you want – only pursue if both of your goals are in alignment. If they aren’t, don’t deepen the wound by getting her back only to have her leave again.

You must continue to be the strong man she loved. Just because you’re going to give her progress in the relationship, and probably pass a commitment point, that doesn’t mean you become a big softie or a clingy emotional guy. Leave that aside and be a strong man – just with a touch more grudging openness to settling down. And, there are ways to do marriage in a strong, productive way – I have a post on it (having been married myself) on the discussion boards here.

The best recommendation for communicating what you need to communicate in this instance, assuming you don’t run into her much socially, is writing a “farewell for now” style email to explain your position, to tell her:

You hadn’t told her, but you’d been planning to get serious / commit / ask her to move in, whatever was the next logical step (don’t say unless you mean it, though, because if you do get her back, it’s put up or shut up time)

You’re sorry things didn’t work out

You know she’s going to find someone absolutely fantastic, and you will always be her friend

The tone of the email is tragic, like a love lost. The objective is to show her that she was just about to get what she wanted when she gave up, threw the towel in, and stormed off (or you let her go).

Don’t be overly melodramatic in the email… it’s sad, it’s a tragedy that we can’t be together, but don’t chase after her in it either, and say, “You can have this if we get back together”; instead, the tone is, “We were almost there… but it just didn’t last.”

The emotion you want her feeling is if she’d just held out a little longer, she would’ve had you. The emotion you’re trying to inspire is the one you’d feel as if you’d been holding a stock for a couple of years, hoping it would go up a lot in value and you’d make a lot of money, and decided to give up on it and sell it at a loss… and then a few days later, the stock exploded in value and you realized if you’d only waited, you’d have had that fortune you’d been hoping for so long to get and gave up on in the eleventh hour.

The emotion is oh CRAP I’m an idiot!

Take your time to write and rewrite this… wording is key here. Word it wrong, and it sounds faked, or, worse, like you’re pleading and offering her something only now that she’s already left. It must be worded perfectly. I advise writing it, saving it, walking away, and then coming back and reading it again later and seeing what you think of it before sending it.

The reason you’re going this route is because she left for want of being able to get what she wanted with you… and now you need to tell her she can have what she wants.

A written note is the best way for you to get everything you want to say out at once without her stopping you or breaking the mood (as she may in person or over the phone). However, if you’re much better at speaking than you are at writing, you may do this in person as well.

I once planned out and spent an entire day to take a former partner of mine who’d parted ways with me and thoroughly detested me through my entire thought processes, why I was who I was, and why I couldn’t give her what she wanted, and how I’d always cared about her but never wanted to hurt her, because I didn’t want her to think ill of me or to have her powerful sense of self damaged from spending so long trying to get commitment out of me and failing. The result of this (very long) day of explanation of the fact that I did care about her, I simply had to do the things I had to do in life and that made it impossible for me to be the kind of man most women expect men to be in relationships, led to her warming right back up to me again (and her getting me back a week later, which was not my intention at all… I made my partings with exes a lot less dramatic after this to stop ex-girlfriends from trying too hard to get back together with me).

Again, and I can’t say it enough, don’t do this unless you mean what you’re saying.

Otherwise, you and her both are going to end up very unhappy (and you’ll be to blame).

How to Get Your Girlfriend Back When She Thinks You’re a Bore

how to get your girlfriend backNow here’s the opposite problem – what do you do when she finds you uninspiring and unexciting?

Most guys who lose a girl this way chase their women down and do things all wrong.

They figure if they just promise her commitment, she’ll stick around.

But that’s not it. She finds them boring and constricting. The last thing she wants is to be trapped with them for a lifetime.

The solution here is not promising progress and your undying love, as it is for the man whose woman’s in auto-rejection. Instead, the solution is providing that element she was missing from her life with you all along: excitement.

Of course, that’s easier said than done. The keys are:

Get your fundamentals handled. Same thing you’ll see everywhere else on this site: movement speed, posture, body language, walk, eye contact, facial expressions, facial hair, fashion, effort expenditure. General sexiness, a sexy vibe, and your “x-factor.” Be smooth, be edgy, acquire some Byronic vulnerabilities and flaws, and create sexual tension. Become the man she dreamed about meeting when she left you. Will this take time? Yes. Is it necessary for getting her back in anything other than full-on stage 3 reflection (which she may never reach if another man scoops her up first)? Yes. The sooner you start turning yourself into the man she wants, the sooner you can be the man she wants – and get her back.

Get preselection. She left because she doesn’t think you’re all that desirable or stimulating. But women are social creatures, and they care very much about the opinions of others… and as soon as she sees you with attractive new women, she’ll start wondering if perhaps she was wrong. This one’s incredibly important – you don’t want to rub it in her face, but rather find ways for her to notice it completely on her own – you’ve just moved on, and beautiful women want you and are with you… and she’s obviously passed up on something every other girl wants. Whoops. If you’re on social media (e.g., Facebook), this is one of the times that medium comes in handy… suddenly pictures of you with beautiful women are going up, and she just can’t help cyber stalking you, wondering who those girls are, and what their relation to you is.

Let her see you as a new man. Whenever you find yourself in front of her or around her (assuming you have some social circle ties to her), you must let her see you as completely different from how she knew you before – the opposite, in many ways. Take anything she may have seen as “weak” about you and reverse it. If she was bored with you, constantly be doing exciting new things and pushing your boundaries (e.g., taking surfing / snowboarding / martial arts / skydiving / etc. lessons). If she thought you were too clingy, be completely nonchalant around her and don’t care what she’s doing or thinking or saying – not in a dismissive way, just in a polite, “Oh, that’s nice,” kind of way. You want her to see that you’ve reinvented yourself – and that she misjudged you the first time around.

Be aloof and seem not to need her or care. Building on that last, you cannot chase! Your instinct may be to crawl on your knees, plead, and beg, but you will not get her back that way. Chances are, you were too clingy the first time around… it’s a part of why she left in the first place. You don’t get her back by giving her more of the same – you must communicate that things have changed with you.

What specifically do you do to show her you’ve changed?

I recommend giving her a little radio silence for a while, so that she doesn’t get the feeling that you’re chasing after her. Then, reemerge – as a completely different man.

Start inviting her to group activities where you’re doing something fun and exciting – ideally, sometimes things she specifically mentioned liking herself, though not always. And make them with groups. Invite her as you would any other friend – no lovey-dovey language or special treatment. Treat her like a guy.

If you can stomach it, even tell her you want to introduce her to a friend of yours, and try to set her up with someone (you probably don’t want to make it anyone close to you, just in case they do get together… no sense damaging a friendship of yours, too).

And make absolutely certain she sees you with other women.

The object here is not to care. To virtually be pushing her away from you… in the most friendly sort of way.

Don’t talk much with her in person when you see her. Don’t give her any satisfaction into HOW or WHY you’ve so radically transformed. Building a mystery around yourself is what you need most here – it’s one of the things she was missing with you.

Make it so that the ONLY way she can think of to find out what’s going on with you and what’s brought about this change and whether or not it’s for real is by asking you to lunch or dinner and asking to spend time with you alone, one-on-one. And even if you agree, and even if you meet up with her, still you must not give her too much satisfaction.

Make her chase you.

What if things haven’t actually changed with you? Can you fake it until you make it?

I’ve advised too-nice / unexciting / clingy friends on getting back mates who’ve left them before – both male and female friends of mine, in fact. And I always caution them that these new changes you make MUST be FOREVER. You cannot think you’re going to get left because your mate was too bored and turned off by the clinginess… and then you’re just going to ACT exciting and carefree for a while, and get him or her back… and then, once you have your old partner back, things go right back to like they were before.

There must be a new paradigm. You must ACTUALLY BE more attractive, more exciting, more desirable, a new person, and genuinely less needy.

Otherwise, as soon as the sheen wears off and you go back to being the you of yore, she’ll go back to doing what she did last time, too – and get bored and leave.

If you want to get her back and keep her, you must meet her needs.

No two ways about it.

So, either forget about this girl who doesn’t find you satisfactory for her and find a new girl whose needs match who you already are and what you’ve already got… or turn yourself into the man of your ex-girlfriend’s dreams.

The choice is yours. But you must choose.

And who knows… even if you choose reinvention, you may just meet another girl along the way you hit it off with even better.

How to Get a Girlfriend Back When Life Intervened

If the both of you left each other sadly but mutually, agreeing that the relationship could not continue on because life had intervened, it’ll be relatively straightforward to get back together again, provided two things are the case:

The situation has naturally resolved or she’s resolved it, and

She isn’t otherwise engaged in a relationship she wants to remain in

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The rules are:

You can’t resolve the situation just to be with her. If, for instance, the two of you went away to different universities after high school, or you took a job in London while she stayed in New York (a la The Family Man), it’s too much for you to suddenly switch jobs or schools to be with her. Even if you claim that isn’t the reason… it’s still transparent. And it looks weak and changeable – you decided something before, then completely uprooted your life after changing your mind to go be with her. You must not do this, even if you start thinking that maybe it’d have been better had the two of you stayed on. Women don’t respect men who flip-flop. Ever.

You must, then, prompt or let her resolve things, or wait for things to resolve naturally. If you had to leave town to go to school or work overseas, then return back home later on and she’s still there, that’s a natural resolution. Or, if you start talking to her via phone or email, and the feel is good and she starts talking about moving to where you are, tell her to come, and let her come to you. Or if she suddenly tells you she’s moving to where you are, take that as a clear indication she’s (probably) in pursuit – and be there to welcome her to town.

You must be curious about starting back up with her. When the two of you explore getting together again, be thoughtful and warm but relatively nonplussed about it. Treat like a “good idea,” and one that you like, but don’t gush… gushing is not especially attractive in men. Give her just enough that she feels excited about moving ahead with things, but not so much that she starts to wonder if you “got desperate” while apart.

The way you want things to progress here is “natural life obstacle naturally resolved, and two partners curious about being together again calmly but curiously starting up once more.” Once you’re back together with her, of course, you can give her some passionate nights in bed, but stay calm afterward. Once the effect of being back together again wears off, you’ll be glad you didn’t lose your head earlier on.

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The one case where you need to be extremely certain and extremely careful – and the one I’m telling you you’d better not take lightly and you’d better act responsibly with – is the case of girl #1: the girl who thinks you’re a jerk.

It’s not easy for a woman to leave a man she has powerful emotions for, and it’s usually a very painful process. If you’ve already put her through that once, DO NOT take her back unless you’re certain you will not put her through it again. Don’t waste more of her time unless you’re prepared to give her exactly what she wants – which, almost without fail, is some combination of commitment, marriage, and/or kids.

If it’s scenarios #2 or #3, you don’t have these same kinds of emotions riding on things, and can take it a little easier. In fact, if you don’t even want a serious relationship at all with a girl #2, I think you’re fine to skip it. She was bored when she left you, and thinks you’re exciting and is getting back with you – she isn’t thinking commitment just yet. You want “commitment” to be the furthest thing she thinks you want, actually. Let her chase for a change.

The Final Consideration

how to get your girlfriend backThere’s one other consideration to think on aside from your effects on her life and mental and emotional health by getting back together with her, however.

And that consideration is the effects on you of this.

Do you really want an ex-girlfriend back?

I’m not asking whether or not you “need” her; when you’re emotionally distraught and you feel like women are scarce resources and you think your one girl is the only special girl in the world like her, of course you feel like you need her.

But if you’re thinking that way, your thinking is flawed, clouded by emotion and focused on the short-term and the details, instead of the long-term and the big picture.

And the big picture in the long-term is, by reinventing yourself – as you’ll need to do for most of these – you become more attractive to other women, and better able to get both greater quantities and better qualities of women in your life.

You become able to not chase, but replace.

When you get your girlfriend back, it’s never the same as the first time around, because there is always a sense that she has left you to find something better, and not found it. She’s back with you again because she’s settling for the best she can get – you.

You’re Mr. Right no longer – now merely Mr. Good Enough.

And that might be fine for you. You might not need more than that.

But I challenge you to do better. I challenge you to move on, forget about your ex-girlfriend, and start upgrading your skills with women in general.

That will take some time. And you’ll likely spend a while going through a series of women who don’t seem to measure up to your ex while you refine your abilities.

But someday, if you keep at it, in the not so distant future, you will reach a point where you realize that you can pretty consistently bring a caliber of women into your life that meet or exceed the caliber of your ex you’re wishing back… and best of all, these girls aren’t “settling” to be with you.

They’re with you because you’re what they want. You’re still “Mr. Right” for them.

Before you begin constructing your elaborate scheme to get your ex-girlfriend back, take a moment and think on whether that might not be time better spent on turning yourself into a man who can get and hang onto women just like her on command instead.

Whichever path you choose, though, do it well, and stick to the plan, and I dare say you’ll almost certainly be fine in the end – whether you end up back with her, or you end up with somebody better.

Oh, and don’t go getting back girlfriends you can’t deliver the goods for – there are too many other women out there who’ll be happy being with you without commitment for you to go derailing some poor girl’s life out of fear of loss or blind neediness. If you really care about a girl you can’t give what’s desired to, let her be free to live her life and chase down her dreams. You’ll be doing her better than almost any other man in her life will ever be willing to do.

Yours,
Chase Amante
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how to get your ex boyfriend back

how to get your ex boyfriend back

Get Him Back
& Keep Him
You thought he was your soulmate. You were sure you were going to spend the rest of your lives together — but you broke up, and now you want him back. Follow these tips to get your ex-boyfriend back and keep him this time.

Woman flirting with ex
1Do you really want him back?

Yearning to get back together because we are lonely and hurting after a breakup is common. If some time has passed, carefully weigh if you really want him back. Do you just miss having a boyfriend, or do you miss him in particular? Do you want your ex now just because you can’t have him? Don’t glamorize your relationship as you look back on it. Was it healthy? Did he (or you) cheat? Is it really going to be any better or different if you get back together?
2Look within.
how to get your ex boyfriend back
Once you have decided that you really want him back, it’s time to get to work. What made him fall in love with you in the beginning? How have you changed? Have you developed any bad habits? Did you make any critical mistakes? Were you too demanding, insecure or unappreciative? If you changed (in a bad way), you’ll need to work on yourself first before you have any chance of getting him back. Feel good about yourself and work through any issues. If you are going to get back together with him, you want to be healthy and baggage free.
3Initiate contact.

If you’ve remained friends, initiating contact is easy. If you haven’t talked to him since the breakup, however, then you’ll have to make some effort. Don’t text him or leave a message on his Facebook wall. Even in the digital age, face-to-face contact is still best. Do some investigation (don’t stalk) and find out where he’s going to be. Make plans to “coincidentally” be there at the same time and run into him.
4Keep it simple.

If he is open to conversation, keep it light-hearted and casual. Don’t get into the details of the breakup, especially in public. Let him know that you miss his friendship, and remind him of a memory together. By using your shared past to your advantage, you may be able to trigger those old feelings. Keep the conversation short and simple. Invite him to a group event in the near future, and leave it at that: “Some of us are hanging out at Ben’s on Friday. You should stop by.” His reaction will tell you if he’s interested in seeing you again.
5Don’t beg.

Crying, whining and begging isn’t going to win his affections. You are just going to show him that you are insecure and needy. Men want a confident, strong woman who has her own interests and shares some of his. They don’t want a clingy, desperate woman with no life.
6Apologize.

If he’s receptive the next time you see him, apologize for the things that you did wrong in your relationship and express your regret. Let him know that you have been working on improving yourself and breaking bad habits. Don’t get weepy or sappy. Just apologize, and then move back to more light-hearted conversation. If he wants to talk more about your breakup (or your future), he will.
7Let him know you are interested.

You don’t have to blurt out, “I love you and can’t live without you” — but do let him know that you are interested in more than just friendship. Laugh at his jokes. Express interest in his job. Bake him some cookies. Flirt. Do what you need to do to show you are interested in trying again. If he’s interested at all, he’ll pick up on your signals. Though trying to seduce him may be tempting, falling back into your bed again doesn’t mean that he’s going to fall back in love with you.
8Accept the breakup.

If he makes it clear that he’s not interested in getting back together, accept the breakup with grace. Move on, but keep in touch with him. Continue to work on your own personal happiness. Allow yourself to date others (even if you don’t get serious with anyone else). Being strong, confident and happy without him may make you more desirable.
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how to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a boyfriend

how to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a boyfriend

 

Ex Girlfriend Has A New Boyfriend – Getting Her Back

Ex Girlfriend Has A New Boyfriend – Getting Her BackMany guys who get dumped work toward winning back the love of an
ex girlfriend.  But what if your ex starts dating again?  Is the
situation hopeless now that your exgirlfriend is dating another
guy, or are there things you can do to get back together again?
Find out the best ways to steal your ex girlfriend back from
another man.

Nothing’s more demoralizing than finding out your ex girlfriend
started dating again – especially if you were still hoping the
two of you could get back together.  So what happens now?
Should you move on?  While most guys completely give up at this
point, there are actually some pretty simple ways of winning
back your exgirlfriend from another guy.  They require some
patience and effort, but if you still believe the relationship
is worth saving?  The following step by step guide will help you
out.

Step 1 – Let Go of Your Past Relationship

It’s the hardest thing to do, but it’s also the most important:
letting go of your ex girlfriend.  Especially if you were trying
to get her back, it’s a difficult thing to admit that your
relationship is finally over.  The fact that your ex girlfriend
is now dating again has nothing to do with it – you simply can’t
move forward with plans to win her heart back until you’ve fully
accepted the break up.  The sooner you can do this, the faster
you can get started on the path to reconciliation.
how to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a boyfriend
Fighting her on it, trying to get her to change her mind…
these things are counterproductive and will always hurt your
chances.  Ditto for showing up at her doorstep and trying to
convince her not to date this new guy.  Anything and everything
you do to stop or challenge your ex at this point will be taken
as desperate and needy.  Don’t show those colors – stand strong
and keep your cool.  Getting back your ex girlfriend requires
you to show very opposite traits: strength and confidence.

Step 2 – Remove Yourself From The Equation

It’s actually the second most difficult thing for men to do: not
contact your ex girlfriend.  Dropping out of your ex’s sight for
a while is the best possible course of action right now, and
this includes all forms of communication.  Aside from
eliminating ex girlfriend phone calls, you can’t email your ex,
text-message her, write on her Facebook wall… none of those
things.  If it’s easier for you, turn your phone and computer
off for a while.  Detaching yourself from the current situation
will keep you from having to watch your exgirlfriend date this
new guy, and it will dull the pain of separation.  By not
talking to her at all you’re also putting yourself back in your
ex’s head by giving her the chance to miss you.

Ex Girlfriend Has A New Boyfriend – Getting Her Back

Step 3 – You, You, and More You

During the honeymoon stages of your exgirlfriend’s new romance,
there’s absolutely nothing you can do to stop it.  So while
you’re NOT doing anything, it’s time to start doing something:
focus entirely on yourself.  This means improving your physical
appearance, but it also means sharpening yourself mentally too.
Start by going to the gym, hitting the treadmill, and sweating
off any extra pounds while allowing the despair and hopelessness
of the situation to drain from your mind.  Exercise is some of
the best medicine on the planet, and is good for your mind and
body.  As you begin to forget about your ex, replace those
thoughts with positive energy.

And when you feel slim, fit, tan, and all those other good
things?  Hit the mall and pick up some new clothing.  Dressing
well will make you feel even better, which will boost your
confidence and self-esteem.  The positive changes you’re making
in yourself will create an instant attraction the next time your
ex girlfriend sees you, and you should keep your eye on that
ultimate goal.  On top of that, becoming a more positive person
will attract others to you… you’ll meet new people, do new
things, and enjoy a much happier life if you can let go of the
anger, resentment, bitterness, and any other negative emotions
you may still have toward the fact that your ex has apparently
moved on.

Step 4 – Wait Out The Beginning Of Her Rebound Relationship

Like any romance, the beginning of your ex’s new relationship
will be fun and happy.  She’ll be excited about her new man, and
forget all about you – temporarily, of course.  During this time
there’s nothing you can do to change things, so don’t even try.
This is when you’ll be concentrating on yourself, and trying not
to notice what’s going on with your ex.

The good news however, is that most rebound relationship fail
within the first two months.  As your ex’s new relationship
begins to unravel, she’s on the downward swing of things.  And
you?  You’re on the upward swing… and in perfect position to
catch her as she’s falling.

And just as the odds say that her rebound relationship will end
soon, they also dictate that she’ll probably be on the receiving
end of the break up.  When her new fling dumps her, that’s when
your ex girlfriend will be most vulnerable.  She’ll be looking
for comfort, companionship, and someone familiar to help her
through it.  As her loving exboyfriend, you can provide all
three of those things.  Once she’s back in her arms, your ex
will feel incredibly lucky that you’re still around…
especially after she sees the new you.  All of the feelings she
tried to bury when she first began dating her new boyfriend will
come right back to the surface.  Time it right, and you’ll look
like a superhero.  You’ll pick her up and help her through this
difficult time, all the while reminding her of the awesome
memories the two of you used to share.

Ex Girlfriend Has A New Boyfriend – Getting Her Back

Step 5 – What To Do If Your Ex’s Relationship Continues On

It’s rare, but every once in a while a rebound relationship will
stick.  If this happens, you’ll need to employ alternative
tactics to win back your ex girlfriend.  The fact that your ex
has a new boyfriend changes a few of the more common methods and
techniques used to win back her heart, and you may need to learn
some unorthodox moves.  Some of these include subtly inserting
yourself into a position between your ex and her new boyfriend,
reestablishing a neutral trust, and using the past as a tool to
pry your way back into her thoughts.  Making that initial
connection is tricky, so learn the right (and wrong) ways to do
it.  You need to accomplish a lot of things in a short period of
time, so the sooner you get started the better.

how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up

how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up

Want to know how you can easily make ex girlfriend want you back? This really can be simple when you know exactly what a woman wants from a man. Although, this often varies on the type of woman she is and a few other factors such as, how she had been treated in past relationships, or her overall personality in general. To easily make ex girlfriend want you back you do need to know a bit about her personality and some of her normal preferences.

A woman can be quite picky when choosing her ideal man. She can, in fact, have a whole list of requirements she goes by before even giving a man a chance with her. However, she will most likely give on some of the requirements if she believes those things can be improved or changed all together in said man.

So what is it that a woman wants from a man? This may sound so simple it is hard to believe, but a woman just wants to be happy. You can easily make ex girlfriend want you back if you know how to really and truly make her happy.You need to think about how sensitive a woman is compared to a man. Doing a few small things can give you a great start, such as, listening attentively when you had rather speak, giving her a hug just because she looks like she could use it instead of ignoring her moodiness, or coming home and preparing a nice meal for her rather than asking “what’s for dinner” the moment you step foot through the door.

A woman ultimately wants a man she knows she can trust and depend on. Show her you love her as much as you love yourself, for instance. If you can be considerate and show her that she can absolutely count on you and you will not let her down. Have a look below for more examples of what a woman wants from a man.
how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up
Self Worth

When a man takes care of himself, loves himself (to a point), and has a confidence in himself it glows like a neon light. All, and I mean all, women are attracted to this type man. A man, with such qualities, can attract a woman like a moth to a flame. To easily make ex girlfriend want you back, you need this particular “X” factor that all women look for.

Assurance

A woman wants a man to make her feel safe and that everything will work out just fine. She wants the assurance that if she needs you, you will be right there. This does not mean that you have to be a billionaire or a muscle man. This type of assurance doesn’t have anything to do with things like that. It just simply means that, while you are around, she is taken care of and does not have to stress over every little thing in life.

Stability

A woman tends to prefer a certain amount of order and balance in her life. To a woman, stability simply means somewhat of a routine is in place. I do not mean as fanatic as a certain time for every action took in a day, or having the highest paid job in town, but having a good idea of what is to come gives her more feelings of balance and stability, rather than uncertainty and dread. Making a woman feel balanced well certainly help easily make ex girlfriend want you back.

Appreciation

A woman is a caretaker at heart and when she cares for someone she will often do a lot to show it. A woman who feels that she is appreciated by a man will be more than glad to continue to do things for him. However, if the appreciation fades, then she starts feeling as if she has been taken for granted and her efforts will cease sooner or later.

Love

Obviously love is is a biggie. I am not at all saying to become a doormat and let her run all over you, but to easily make ex girlfriend want you back, you need to express truly how much you love her and how much she means to you. Tell her everyday or even more than once a day. A man is often hard to read, so you should never just assume she knows how you feel or what you think. A woman likes to hear she is loved and see the love through a man’s actions, rather than guessing how he feels.

This is definitely a great start in how to easily make ex girlfriend want you back. The key is knowing exactly what a woman wants from a man. Once you know that, it will be like stealing candy from a baby. Taking the time to understand her, and the qualities she requires, this will ensure your success in the happy, healthy, and equal relationship you both desire.

While trying to Easily Make Ex Girlfriend Want You Back can be a difficult task depending on the situation, it is absolutely possible with the proper knowledge and implementation.

how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up

how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up

If you want to get your girlfriend back you have to do the things contrary to what she might thing you will still do or the opposite you have been thought to do.making your girlfriend to come back by promising her you will change,showering her with flowers, gift and love letters or even trying persuasion tricks,sneaky tactics or manipulative mind games do not work.Only counter intuitive strategies things that you have never considered doing before will rap your girlfriends attention and course her to run back in to your arms.Here are some shocking truths you should know.

Shocking Truth about how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up number 1

Do not believe those so called experts who claim that you can get back with your girlfriend with in a specific period of time like 30 days,7days, or even 2 days.

There is no magic way that will bring your girlfriend back within a given number of days because every relationship is unique.Not one specific time line or strategy is true for every situation.Although it is possible to get your ex-girlfriend back in seven days or less.The majority of guys who succeed in getting their girl back do so in the second month,some take two weeks or less and some take three months or more depending on how faithfully they implement their counter intuitive strategies.

Shocking truth about how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up number 2

If you are feeling pain over your breakup,you may be killing your chances of getting her back.

You see when you suffer over the break up of your relationship with your ex-girlfriend it causes you to idealize the relationship you had with her.That is you turn to glorify her by focusing only on the positive aspects of the relationship.This then causes you to react out of need and desperation rather than true desire and this only pushes your ex-girlfriend further away from you.Nothing turns a woman “OFF” more than a man who is needy and desperate.The sooner you get rid of those feeling of dis-pare the sooner your ex girlfriend will instantly realize that you do not just NEED HER you simply WANT HER.There is a huge difference between the two and it is a difference that shows sense and respond to immediately.You will not understand the power of this strategy until you try it.

Shocking Truth about how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up number three

A slight change in your approach will cause her to practically beg to be with you.
how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up
All the relationship books,courses and so called experts give the following advice;
-Act like you are OK with her decision to leave.The problem is they left some thing out that is very important.The key is act like you are OK but you are not OK with her decision to break up with you.That will seems like a slide change but one that will make a tremendous difference from the respond you will get from her.If you act or pretend that every thing is OK she will see right through it and you will not trigger the psychological reaction you want which is to make her want to come back to you.
you also need to make your ex-girlfriend know you are OK with her decision to break up with you but yo can not plainly tell her this.If you use the wrong approach to let her you are doing just fine with out her, you may course her to want to forget about you all together.If you take the right approach it will be long before she is back in your arms.

Shocking truth about how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up number four

The one thing you must never tell a girl after a break up.

Most guys make this mistake after their girl friend breaks up with them.They tell her “I Love you and I will always be there for you.You may thing saying this ten words may course her to come back but it actually creates the opposite of that.It gives her the permission to go out and do what ever she pleases,even date other guys with the assurance that she can always come back to you when ever she wants.And if she is already dating some one else,telling her this ten words is even worst.She will then take the time to get to know the other guy fully compare him to you and then decide who she wants to be with.That is like letting her have her cake and eat it too.

Shocking truth about how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up number five

Do not remain friends with your ex-girlfriend!

Most relationship books,curses and so called relationship experts tell you that remaining fiends with your ex girlfriend is a good strategy for getting her back.This is misleading advice based on the wrong assumption that if you remain friends with your ex you will keep other guys away and you will eventually get back together.Actually in 95% of cases,remaining friends with a girl after she breaks up with you increases the likely hood that she will move on to another guy.There are only two circumstances that is OK to remain friends with your ex,you will learn them when you study the counter intuitive strategies.

Shocking truth about how to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up number six

The “2-tricks”you must never try with your ex (these will push her away to the point of no return)

What is worst than not getting your ex girlfriend back is getting her back only to lose her again soon after some times only a few days or a few weeks.She can also end up hating you on top of it all.This is exactly what happens when you pull tricks,tactics and manipulative mind games that the so call relationship experts teach you.The two most common of these tricks that back fire big time are;
-Deliberately ignoring your ex-girlfriend and

This is reverse psychology at its worst.were reverse psychology does play an important role of getting your girlfriend back,the way of using it may destroy your chances of ever reuniting with your girlfriend and even you do succeed  in getting her back with tricks,you will most likely lose her again before it is too long.Why ,because the problems that coursed the first break up will still be there.Tricks would not get in to the roots of these problems.

Remember in other to get your ex girlfriend back you most do the opposite of what you should do.

How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back | 5 secret tips that get your ex girlfriend back in your life

How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

girlfriend Are you still in love with your ex girlfriend? But your girlfriend does not responding to your messages Or you are start feeling jealous from your girlfriend when you see her hand in the back of other person? Or are you frustrated because whatever you do your heart start missing her? You are not alone in this situation. There are many people that still want to get their ex girlfriend back in their life. You are totally confuse about how to win her back again but don’t worry it does not matter how worst your situation is, you can get her back in your life if you follow some correct ways. The only thing you need to do is to push few right button with proper timing and I am sure your girlfriend crawl back to you.

Below in this post you will find 5 tips about getting ex girlfriend back no matter how worst your situation is:
How to Get your Ex Girlfriend Back Tips

Show your confidence:

Now you need to understand that your ex girlfriend left you and dating with someone else and she is move on in her life. Now you need to get your confident back with you. Build confident you once have when you meet with your girlfriend first time. We all know girls wants confident guy and if you want to again win your ex girlfriend back you need to asking a question from yourself “how much confident you are?” Are you having enough confident level that attract your girlfriend once again or are you lacking in confident? If you don’t show your confident level then you ex will never come back in your life again.

Listen! You have all the qualities that attract her first time you meet with her and now time come again when you need to regenerate attractive qualities inside you and let your ex girlfriend crawl back to you.  Your confident level plays very important role in bringing your ex girlfriend in your life again. That is why you need to have your top confident level before approaching your ex girlfriend again. Always keep one thing in your mind, your girlfriend still loves you because it is not easy to forget someone whom you spend most of your time. Surely, your girlfriend still likes you but she is dating with someone else just want to make you jealous. That is why instead of getting jealous you need to show her that you don’t care her anymore.

Get back in your life:

Getting breakup from the one your love most is very painful. Whatever you like to do you can’t do, whatever you likes to do you leave it for tomorrow, every time you keep on searching tips and tricks about how to get your ex girlfriend back. Remember, after getting breakup from your girlfriend you need to get active in your life. Do all this you like to do before meeting your ex girlfriend. Don’t keep you mind empty, keep on doing different activities and keep yourself busy. Participate in your local sports event, involve yourself in some kind of activity but always remember don’t make yourself lazy. Best way to keep your mind away from thinking about your ex is involve yourself in some kind of light jogging. Go for jogging in morning and if you get some friends with you that will be great. Join Gym and start working on machine to keep yourself fit and active. It is good to do activities where group of people involve. Don’t sit in front of TV and keep on thinking about your ex. It is good to make a list of plan in the starting of week and try to complete them at least one daily. Doing this way will keep your mind and heart away from thinking about your ex.

Understand the mistakes you make in your relationship:

They are numerous reasons for breakup and now these days when girlfriend breakup with someone that mean her boyfriend don’t understand her. It is true that it is difficult to understand a woman. But you need to know what your girl require from you. The most important thing a girlfriend need from her boyfriend is love, romance, encouragement and some time.  If you fail to deliver these things to your girlfriend your relation will not last longer. It is very important for you to know what your ex girlfriend wants from you and where you are failing to deliver her. Once you come to know about this it becomes very easy for you to get her back in your life.Watch this video to understand it more clearly

Make your ex girlfriend realize your importance:

girlfriend giftThis is very important tip about how to get your ex girlfriend back and read it very carefully. If necessary read this tip multiple times because this tip is very important in getting your ex back. Listen!! If you want your ex back in your life then you need to make her realize your importance. When your girlfriend start realizing your importance in her life she start finding ways to contact you and this is what you want. But you may be wondering how to make her realize about your importance? And the simple answer of this is you need to totally eliminate all the contact ways with your ex. Make strong decision and stop talking with her or even passing near from her house. You have breakup from your girlfriend and it is possible that your ex girlfriend have negative thinking about you that is why it is necessary to stay away from your ex girlfriend and let the negative feeling start getting disappear from her mind. Once negative feeling start disappearing from your ex mind’s automatically romantic feeling start taking place in your ex mind and within few days you will surely get call or text message from her.

Stop doing mistakes to get her back:

Many people after getting breakup from their girlfriend start doing deadly mistakes that take their ex more far from them. These mistakes are drunk driving, bulk text messages, bombarding bulk messages and start showing desperate and needy feelings. If you want to get your ex girlfriend back in your life then you need to start yourself from doing these stupid mistakes.

These are 5 super super tips if you follow them you surely get your ex girlfriend back in your life. Your girlfriend will be back in your life if she sees something special that attracts her first time she meet with you. Instead of showing you are dying for her it is good to show her that you are totally normal with or without her.

win your ex backYou are reading this post because you are emotionally hurt from the lost of your dream girl. It is very important to get back in your life. Look! You girlfriend leaves you alone and now it is up to you either you want her back in your life or you keep on thinking about her. If you want to get her back in your life then you need to get active and start working on getting your ex girlfriend back. It maybe possible you did some mistake and it is also possible that your ex girlfriend did some mistake. In any case your relationship is not end and if you want to renew your relationship then you need to show your attractiveness skills to your ex girlfriend.

Some people think once relationship breaks you never get your ex back but it is not correct. Getting your ex girlfriend back is not difficult as many people think and once you know perfect steps about how to get your ex girlfriend back then you will get your ex back easily. But the problem is that you need effective tips to get your ex girlfriend back. If you do any mistake in getting your ex girlfriend back then you lost her forever. Below you will find some psychological tips that will be effective if you follow them honestly.

Tips about getting your ex back:

End all ways to contact your ex girlfriend back:

It is very important to minimize your contact with your ex girlfriend as much as possible. If it is OK for you then do your best to completely cut all ways to contact your girlfriend. It sounds to be easy but it is not because you will going to miss her especially if she is your first love. The only way that bring your ex girlfriend in your life is your relation romantic feeling. But it is necessary to make your ex girlfriend realize about your importance.

Stop getting needy:

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Do you like needy person? Of course not and I am sure you never like needy person as does your girlfriend. Always remember that stop getting needy. If you show your needy feeling to your ex it is possible your ex start making fun of you. Instead it is good to show your ex girlfriend that you are totally ok with the breakup and enjoying your life. Doing this will make your ex girlfriend thinks about her decision of leaving you. Once your ex girlfriend start thinking about you she start getting position feeling about you.

Stop sending your negative feeling to your ex girlfriend:

If you are sending bulk text messages, blank calls and “hi, hello” messages to your ex girlfriend it is possible that your girlfriend never respond to them. These messages basically sending your negative feeling to your ex girlfriend and it will not work for you.

These are three important step you need to follow it to get your ex girlfriend back. The first and most important thing you need to do is to accept your breakup then stop contacting your ex girlfriend.